Don’t hesitate to talk openly about intimacy.
Don’t Ignore Any Red Flags, Take Action
Young Daters Relationship Survey: Gone are the days when no was considered as yes. Now ‘no’ doesn’t mean ‘convince me’ at all. Let us tell you that today’s youth do not find it attractive to flirt, to chase someone. In today’s era, mutual consent means consent is considered very important. This is also taken care of on dating apps.
If you are single and want to say ‘yes’ and ‘no’ equally without hesitation but are unable to say it, then here we will tell you some easy tips, by adopting which you will be able to speak your mind easily. Recently, the dating app Tinder recently conducted a survey in which young daters gave their opinion on many important issues, due to which some interesting things came out on mutual consent ie, the need for consent and its popularity. Tinder shared some of the survey with us.
How will you know until you ask…
According to the survey, it is now redundant to say that if you talk about consent for dating, then it spoils someone’s mood. Now it is not so while the youth feel that things should be taken forward only with mutual consent. The survey revealed that 70% of young daters feel that it is important to openly discuss consent with a dating partner. Sohan (name changed), a dating app user from New Delhi, says, “If you think asking for consent spoils the mood, I want to stop you there. How do you know what the other person wants unless you ask? Asking direct questions like “Are you comfortable?” or “Can I…?” This guarantees that my match and I are on the same mental wavelength and comfortable. This makes dating fun and exciting, it doesn’t spoil it.
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Start a conversation, even if you are hesitant at first…
Don’t hesitate to talk openly about intimacy. Many young people suppress their feelings because either they are afraid of hurting their partner’s feelings or they feel awkward or just don’t know what to say. Mumbai-based 19-year-old dating app user Vyom Sharma (name changed) says he makes sure to discuss consent with his match before going ahead. He says, “I believe it is always good to talk about things beforehand. Earlier, I used to try to read the unspoken words or signals on my own which could backfire severely but once I started openly discussing consent with my dating partner, it helped me a lot. We started feeling more comfortable with each other.”
Do not hesitate to give priority to your own desire
Let us tell you that most of the Indian youth told themselves as priority, followed by their parents, school/college, friends and even dating apps. 22-year-old Manasi Sehgal (name changed) from Delhi says, “It was awkward to open up about consent at first because people are always afraid of what others will think but since I read about consent and boundaries online, I myself Educated.. So now I don’t think about it.. I am more clear and confident about my feelings. If I don’t feel, I don’t move forward.”
There is nothing more attractive than a man who respects his own and others’ boundaries. Akanksha Verma from Bangalore says, “Talking to your match about who you are comfortable or cool with and what you are not is very important. Even if someone changes their mind then it really shouldn’t be a big deal. You need to understand the boundaries of others and respect their decision.”
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Must use security features in online dating
Let us tell you that this survey was done in some big cities of the country like Delhi, Mumbai, Bangalore, Pune, Kolkata, Chennai and Hyderabad. It was conducted by YouGov and 1,018 Indian youth in the age group of 18 to 30 years participated in it. According to the survey, 3 things are very important for Indian youth while dating online, maintain your privacy, keep a valid profile and report inappropriate behavior or suspicion. Young dating app user Ranjana Sontake (name changed) from Mumbai says, “The security features put you in-charge of your online dating experience. You can block or report a profile as soon as you see a red flag, no matter how long or short the conversation. It is a way of retreating when needed and I believe it is everyone’s right.”
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FIRST PUBLISHED : November 17, 2022, 12:00 IST